Today is the right time to take a look at your life and see what is taking place in every moment so you can find the purpose behind it. Since nothing is random, how can you pay close attention to reveal every single lesson from your experience?
Pitfalls:
Are you tired of the same unpleasant things continuing to repeat themselves over and over in your life? Until you recognize exactly why this is happening, you will experience déjà vu again and again. One typical situation is when others complain about something you do. The usual defense mechanism is taking the offense – pointing out what is wrong with them instead. Here is a bigger picture of what you can do about it. Although there is a possibility these same people will have concepts causing them to continue their attacks, there must be a valid reason why you are attracting them to yourself. Frankly, if you did not have the concepts attracting these attacks to you, you would not have to deal with them at all. So what can save your day? Take a look at yourself to find out what is responsible for you having to go through this experience. Remember, if there is nothing, then nothing will take place. If there is something there, you can find it. This will save you from having to go through it anymore.
Solutions:
Have you ever had a sore spot? When you press on it, is it much more sensitive than a healthy spot? The same applies in the example above. If attacks from others are hurting you, they must be hitting a delicate nerve. So what makes you sensitive in this area? As long as you heal this spot, their attacks will be like pressing on healthy skin. You will not feel them and they will not bother you. After a while, they will have to give it up and go bug someone else. Your problem will be solved. But how do you get there? Take a look at what really revs you up and why. Does a problem someone else is having about you bother you? If it really bothers you, it must be something you need to clarify within yourself and perhaps make some changes. This will be time well spent. How can you make sure nothing others tell you has any negative effect whatsoever? All you need to do is like yourself. Then, like yourself even more. This is all that matters. If you sincerely want to improve yourself, it is possible. If you have solid, unshakeable self-esteem, what others may think about you will be none of your business. No one will come back to tell you they do not like you when you greet it with a gracious smile. Take a bold step and take a look now to avoid any ups and downs later.